My favorite things are not things. They are people, places, and experiences. As a minimalist, I'm often accused of throwing everything away. Not true. And I do have a few really useful items that I plan to keep, as long as they serve my needs. Here are some of my favorite things and why they work for me. Minimalism doesn't mean owning nothing. It is different for everyone. And I thought you'd be relieved to know that I own some stuff. But more than that, there's intentionality behind each and every item and why I acquired it and also why I keep it. More importantly, I have chosen the best of the best because it's easier to identify what I love instead of weeding through a pile of stuff I don't. If you are struggling to downsize, write down your favorite things and then look around. You probably see a lot of things not on the list. But if you still feel overwhelmed, try tackling one drawer or one shelf at a time with the keep-approach. Experience the freedom of …
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How Many Dishes Do You Really Need?
Only three people live in our house and yet we have a lot of dishes. Owning more dishes means more to wash and put away. Is a 12-piece place setting really necessary? What about all the entertaining platters and bowls? With a little work, and my step-by-step guide, you can downsize or better yet, rightsize dishes to serve the needs of your family on a day to day basis.CollectionsI’m embarrassed to admit we own three different types of dishes (everyday, china and Christmas). My husband loves our china so we use it often. But we reduced each set and agreed we won't keep the wedding or Christmas china forever. Neither of us wants our possessions to be a burden to our son. Dishes are a relatively easy place to start. The kitchen is the heartbeat of the home so keeping it clutter-free and organized saves time and money. With clean countertops and organized cabinets, it's also much easier to cook dinner and resist the urge to order takeout. Step-by-Step Guide to Downsize …
5 Reasons Why I Am Not a Good Minimalist
Apparently I’m not a very good minimalist. I was told, on more than one occasion, that my lifestyle is not minimalist. And yet my bio includes "minimalist' as the first descriptor. Plus, I share minimalist practices on my website and with clients. The concern comes from the size of my house, two cars, and a vacation home. So it got me thinking.Good MinimalistsWho counts as a good minimalist? Maybe Colin Wright is a real minimalist. He carries all his belongings in a backpack. Or perhaps Joshua Fields Millburn? After all, he and Ryan Nicodemus started THE Minimalists. Joshua Becker must count since he documented his family's journey at Becoming Minimalist.But what I know from reading their work is that minimalism looks different for each and every one of us. Our families are different. So are our jobs, houses, and the areas where we live. We have individual passion projects and goals. These differences are unique to our minimalist journey and yet common ground remains.As minimalists, we …
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10 Benefits of Living In a Smaller House
If you’ve heard my story, then you know that our starter home turned into our forever home. After college, we moved to DC, got married, and started building the American dream. We had two great jobs and a large apartment but it was time to buy a house because we filled the apartment to the brim. Over the years, I learned it’s human nature to fill all the space we have. To this day, I work very hard to not fill spaces in my home. These empty spaces allow my eyes a place to rest. But I have to be intentional and disciplined to prevent them from being filled with more stuff. Our starter home was a single-family, 3 bedroom home. I realize this is not small, but it was smaller than most. And we were being influenced and pressured to buy even more and to push our budget. We loved the neighborhood and location and found something that would not leave us house poor. It became our forever home when we realized there was more to life than taking care of more stuff. But …
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5 Effective Habits of Clutter-Free Families
Fighting clutter can feel like a losing battle. After all, there are 300,000 items in the average American home. But decluttering is more about habits than ones ability to get organized. My first piece of advice for clutter-free living is to stop shopping. Stop the inflow. Consider a Shopping Moratorium for 30 days. Experimenting with less reveals how little we really need. Living with less also creates a peaceful sanctuary in our homes. A calm environment at the end of a workday and a place where our eyes can rest, clutter-free from distractions. If you'd like to calm the chaos in your home, start with these 5 habits. Protect Flat Surfaces Flat surfaces attract clutter. And clutter attracts more clutter. The largest flat surface in your home is the floor. Don’t mistake it for storage. Adopt the habit that only furniture belongs on the floor. Pick up trash when it falls. If you have hardwood floors keep a dust mop handy for a quick sweep. Go through the mail outside by …
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After a Year of Bullying, Here’s What Matters Most
I can't sugar coat this. Several years ago, my son was bullied in school. To his credit, he tried to handle it himself. After all, he has two type-A parents who model self-sufficient behavior and rarely ask for help. Neither did he. Thankfully, he has picked up some of our good habits as well. Feeling Alone at School Eventually, he told me how there were times he sat alone at lunch. And that he had no close friends in class. Years of building close friendships met with an influx of new students, sent his good friends scattered to other homerooms. He felt lost. By early spring, he couldn't take it anymore. I think it bubbled up inside and exploded. We got a call about an incident at school. He finally defended himself against the bully. His emotions poured out as he cried over the phone. I was out of town. His tears filled with regret and remorse for his actions. I think the months of bullying coupled with my travel were the straw that broke the camel's back. He internalized the …
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